Placing My 10-Month-Old for Adoption
How to Make an Adoption Plan Today
Adoption can be a scary concept. You’ve spent some precious time with your child over the last 10 months, but now, you’re unsure if parenting is right for you. That can be an intimidating concept to think about. But remember this: If you’re considering adoption for your baby, you’re never alone. In fact, “last-minute” adoptions are extremely common, and plenty of women have been in your shoes.
If you’re considering adoption for a 10-month-old, the first step is to call 1-800-ADOPTION. You’ll be connected to an adoption professional that can provide free information with no obligation to choose adoption.
What are Some Reasons to Start Thinking About Adoption for My 10-Month-Old?
We know that adoption isn’t right for everyone, but it might be the best choice for yourself and your baby. Here are just some of the reasons why a woman start thinking about adoption for her baby, even at 10 months old:
- Parenting is expensive: There are the expected costs — like food, clothing, and shelter — but of course, unexpected costs always arise. If you’re the primary breadwinner, it’s extremely difficult to raise a child and work at the same time.
- She wants to raise her baby in a two-parent home: Every birth mother has a unique relationship with the birth father. We always hope that they’re supportive and involved in your baby’s life, but that isn’t always the case.
- She has dreams outside of parenting: Parenting can be a wonderful and rewarding experience. But if you’re trying to go back to school and raise a child at the same time, it can feel like an impossible challenge. Many women consider adoption to fulfill their dreams at a career they’ve always wanted or to finish up school.
- She has little support from her family and friends: Like the birth father, we hope that everyone in your life is supportive of you choosing to parent. But sometimes, help can be hard to come by. If you’re in a situation where you feel alone with no one to help you, adoption might be the best decision for you and your baby.
Of course, these are only some of the reasons why a woman would consider adoption. We understand that every birth mother’s situation is unique, and that adoption might not have been your initial plan. No matter your reason, adoption for a 10-month-old is more than possible.
I Don’t Want My Baby to Think I’m Giving Up on Them
In your discussions about your plans with family and friends, the term “giving a baby up for adoption” almost always comes up. But we’re here to tell you that idea couldn’t be more untrue. If you’re considering adoption for your 10-month-old, it’s because you dream of a better life for them. And if you’re giving your baby anything, it’s the gift of a better future.
If you choose to have an open adoption, you can still be part of their life and watch them grow and thrive. So always remember, placing your child for adoption doesn’t mean that you don’t want to see them anymore or that you don’t love them. By “giving up” a 10-month-old for adoption, you’re not “giving up” at all — you’re making the hard and selfless decision to give them a better opportunity.
What Kind of Help Can I Receive From American Adoptions?
When you’re considering adoption for your baby at 10 months old, you’re probably wondering about what kind of services you can receive. Even though you’re placing an older infant for adoption, you’ll receive many of the same services, such as legal representation during the adoption and 24/7 access to counseling and educational resources, as any other prospective birth mother.
If you have any questions about the services available during an adoption for 10-month-olds, don’t be afraid to ask your adoption specialist.
How Do I Start the Adoption Process for My 10-Month-Old?
The adoption process for 10-month-olds is very similar to a newborn adoption. If you’ve made the brave and selfless decision to choose adoption, here is what you need to know:
- Step 1: Submit information and make an adoption plan. Like every prospective birth mother, you’ll start by calling 1-800-ADOPTION. From there, you’ll be connected with your own adoption specialist. She’ll then ask you to fill out a social and medical history form for yourself and your baby. Once that’s completed, you’ll be asked to make an adoption plan, which includes a list of preferences you’d like to see in an adoptive family.
In addition to these forms, there is some additional background information that your adoption specialist will ask you to provide or help them gather. This includes:
- Your child’s birth certificate
- Seeing who is listed as the father on your child’s birth certificate
- Obtaining medical records for your child
- Documentation of where the child has lived from birth to present
- Information on who has had custody or care of the child from birth to present
- Who has provided financial and emotional support for this child from birth to present
- Details about any father who has provided child support
Although this list may be overwhelming, it’s very important to have when making an older child adoption plan.
- Step 2: Choose adoptive parents. Once your adoption specialist has all of your forms back, she’ll send you different adoptive family profiles. There are plenty to choose from, so you don‘t have to be worried about finding a family for your 10-month-old.
- Step 3: Get to know the family and build your relationship. When you choose adoptive parents for your baby, you’ll get to know them through phone calls, email or whatever form of contact you’re most comfortable with. You and your baby will also be able to spend some time with the adoptive parents prior to placement to help your child transition. Once you’ve found the right family and gotten to know them through pre-placement contact, you’ll decide on the level of post-adoption contact you’d like to have. If you’d like to have more or less contact after the adoption, you’ll just need to find a family that has the same goals for their adoption as you do.
- Step 4: Legally complete the adoption. After everything is settled, you’ll just need to sign the consent to the adoption. Up until this point, you have plenty of time to change your mind about the adoption. But after you sign away your parental rights, you won’t be able to turn back. Your adoption specialist will provide the counseling you need to make sure this is really what you want to do, and an adoption attorney will be able to explain your rights through every step of the process. Your adoption specialist and adoption attorney will make sure you understand every step clearly before signing away your rights.
You’ll likely have many questions about the adoption process for your 10-month-old even after reading this article. To start your adoption plan today, please call 1-800-ADOPTION to receive free information at no obligation to choose adoption.
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